Friday, February 8, 2008

Love And Other Ironies

Two people fall in love and have a child.  They fall out of love and both want the little girl, who just wants a Mom and Dad.

The woman decides to get rid of the man, and has him killed.

Now she has no Daddy.

The woman is caught and goes straight to jail.

Now she has no Mommy.

The little girl is now a ward of the State of New York and I can't imagine what she's thinking each night as she tries to fall asleep in some strange home, strange bed, strangers all around.  And all for what?  

Did they just love their child too much?

Not a chance.  It was vengence.  It was a tragic waste.   

 

18 comments:

Anonymous said...

how sad! :*(

Sharon

Anonymous said...

This is a very sad irony indeed, this all too often happens, if only two people could realize that sharing child is better than leaving an orphan for someone else to raise and that you dont need to turn a love you once had for each other into hatred, but to let go gently and gracefully and love your child separately  without animosity.

Anonymous said...

This story hurts my heart, I feel so bad for the little girl.  Her life will never be the same and I can only hope against hope she doesn't fall victim to the (sometimes) very flawed foster care system.
Lisa

Anonymous said...

omg that is so sad , I will keep this little girl in my prayers
hugs
Sherry

Anonymous said...

That is really something to think about.. it brought tears to my eyes really.. MY GOD! Maybe daddy was trying to take her away? I couldn't handle it if someone tried to take my son. Not enought to murder anyone but maybe myself.. I just couldn't handle it. -Missy http://journals.aol.com/ma24179/MISSYZSTUFF

Anonymous said...

Sad story.  The truth of it is that it happens more often these days.
*Hugs*
Gina

Anonymous said...

Too sad for words. Love Pam xx
http://journals.aol.co.uk/pamal3/almost-40/

Anonymous said...

Oh ... so sad.  I am presently reading 'Three Little Words' by Ashley Rhodes-Courter, a child who spent her life in foster care .... it's a sad and compelling book.  Makes me extra grateful for the childhood I had -- which was without a doubt, wonderful.  

Anonymous said...

Unfortunately, this happens alot.  Sad.  And angry parents after divorce, well, this is ALL too common.  TOXIC parents.  The kids may have well lost both parents.  When I divorced I never said anything mean about my kid's dad to my kids.  That is abusive, in my opinion.  Love, Val xox
http://journals.aol.com/valphish/ThereisaSeason

Anonymous said...

How can such selfishness come first before the child.
Bless her!
I hope her life ends up better than it has been so far.
Hugs
Jeanie xxx

Anonymous said...

Instead of growing up feeling loved , the child grows up feeling unwanted.....

Sounds so much like my childhood, only neither of the parents are deceased, just cruel. She is going to grow up with a warped sense of love, unless hopefully someone understands and adopts her into a loving home. We can hope can't we....
(Hugs) Indigo

Anonymous said...

Some of these cases that hit the newspaper are unbelievable in their violence and lack of forethought by the perpetrators.  This morning I see that a young man 22 is being sentenced to prison for a long term because he punched his girlfriend's 2 month old baby in the stomach, and it died.  He ws tending two other small children of hers besides at the time, and now she is going to be sentenced for not protecting the chidren from him! Gerry

Anonymous said...

No matter how often I hear that same story world wide it always reminds me of how easy any relationship can fall apart, without compromise, on either part.

If there are children or child of that union they are the first to be divided, set aside, torn apart, used as a lever, an object of ownership, without thought of the security and love a child needs, and should demand as a human being in their own right.

Who is at fault? Both I'd say in this world so maligned as to create a winner and loser mentality.
Are the attorneys wrong for whatever action they have in pursuing this settlement?

Are the courts wrong in not protecting the innocence of youth when division interrupts their lives and reduces them to take sides?

Does a State require to act when this type of vengeance is imminent or have they already failed to protect their innocent citizens from this sort of behaviour?

It is not wrong to fall in love just as it is not wrong to fall out of love. What is wrong is the product of that relationship being used as a chattel and weapon and used against the opposition.

More questions than answers, Cathy, but ultimately, it’s Man’s inhumanity to Man that causes this mournful and shocking scenario. ED

Anonymous said...

They did not love the child - that is obvious to me by their actions. They did not even love each other!  In fact, it is my humble opinion that neither one of them had a clue as to what love is.  If they did, they would not do this to their child.  My heart goes out to the little girl as the parents are adults and CHOSE to do the things they did to each other.  The child, however, has no choice - she is simply the sad, misplaced victim in all this.  It would be my wish that God will cuddle this little girl in His arms and bless her with a better life than she would have ever had with her birth parents.  

Anonymous said...

Some people just get so worked up about "what the deserve" they don't see the whole picture.  We live in a "it's all about me" society.  I don't know what drives another to kill; and I hope I never do.  Hopefully the little girl will be loved by people that truly care about her, and will love her unconditionally.  Julie :)  

Anonymous said...

This is what happens when people put all their emphasis on what they want instead of what is best, when they go against God's laws.  People all around are hurt by the fallout....and the children most of all.  -  Barbara

Anonymous said...

    Marriage is hard at its best, and I know even though mine is solid, there are times when I considered leaving. What you described above sounds more like someone in heat rather than love. There are so many things wrong with that scenario. A parent who would go so far as to do her mate in, is selfish beyond the power of love. (I'm speaking of someone not being abused by her mate.) What a way to screw up a kid.
Jude
http://journals.aol.com/jmorancoyle/MyWay

Anonymous said...

Oh my........ That's too awfull!
Gaz