Monday, January 7, 2008

I Refer You To A Monster

Today I was presented with a shock so severe to my soul, I was sure it couldn't be true, somehow.  TODAY I discovered a sad truth:  Some women are born either missing or never find nor feel, maternal instincts.  Human, maternal drives, before, during and after giving birth.  Some women know they're not meant to be mothers and therefore, hopefully have none.  That necessary instincual need to love, nourish, protect and guide this new soul ushered into the world must be the most important priority in your life.

Watching this program my tolerance was pushed beyond all barriers.  I composed my own motto not long ago, to TOLERATE the intolerable, LOVE the unloveable, and forgive the unforgiveable.  It's worked for me many a hard-pressed time.

The program was "The Steve Wilkos Show" and I found it from its premiere.  This is a man, who, though knowing people who beat their progeny before it's even born, will need help of a specialized, more impersonal kind.  He is not impersonal.  His goal seems to be to spotlight and verbally punish deadbeat Dads and Moms, drug addicts who make excuses, baby-beaters, pedarasts who think the child they "loved" with their hands surely loved them back, and they didn't "cause" it - the child (baby) invited these attentions.  What he does is, present a forum where these folks can be shown in full graphic truth, and people watching who perhaps felt they couldn't voice their thoughts could now say what they think of such as these, using language meant only to confront and perhaps antagonize them into some kind of emotional reaction other than violence, idiocy, indifference

I confess I enjoy this program.  Someone SHOULD berate them publically (guests ASK to be on this show) and even if it's only to bring such horrors to light via the person who knowingly performed them, I still believe it's a needed thing, perhaps finally and at long last in this country.

As for maternally bankrupt mothers:  This woman is in prison for her natural life (L-Wopp'd in legal terms, as in life without the possibility of parole).  "Alicia" had allowed and participated in the torture and death of her 4-year old baby son.  For months, he was hung by his ankles from a closet, gagged, burned, beaten, his eyes tapped shut, severly malnourished, bruised everywhere, his little boy skin beaten raw and bleeding.  He had an open hole in his chest and on the right side of his little head.  This is just one incident among far too many others, which is going on right now as I type this and you read it.  What POSSIBLE horrendous crime could that little boy have commited??  I'll tell you:  He danced.  Her boyfriend saw him dancing to a song, thought it "looked gay" (he's 4 years old!!) and decided to torture his gayness out of him.  How can a baby know what gender preference is?!?  A question that needn't be asked but ...

When Mr. Wilkos, a father of young children himself, visited this woman in prison, he was trying to elicit SOME kind of emotion, a reason, a sensible fact, like "I couldn't help because I was tied up myself" or "When I got loose he beat me up again and..." etc.  Seems he never beat her, just focused on her "gay" 4-year old.  God help us.  God, HELP us from judging but this woman?  Any soul watching her smirk, her twisted half-laugh, her dead eyes, her complete lack of expression, no affectation at all, while Mr. Wilkos poured out her own confessed words to what she did and allowed to be done, as she stated over and over, "I didn't know it was happening", when in fact she certainily knew and even helped a monster go about his cruel business.  The boy was found dead, emaciated, open sores all over his little broken body, rope burns on his ankles, and incredibly, it was obvious to the paramedics who were called in that this child had been dead alot longer than a few minutes, as told.  Lividity has set in and gone already, that's at least 14 hours since the time of death. 

Why am I relating all this?  As painful and heart-wrenching as it is, why in the world bring it up?  I'll tell you.  Not because people don't know babies are abused, that's been brought home all too obviously. 

It's to make the unspoken, unbelieved point that some women who give birth find absolutely no maternal instinct kick in, even while pregnant.  They lack that essential response which comes to most so naturally and though there's probably a reason in her past that started this lack of emotion, if you bring a new soul into the physical world and don't care, don't "feel anything" as this woman said, have no instinct on any level to even FEED your child, well...so yes indeed, they do exist.  These woman (I won't call them mothers, I cannot) are people who somehow sleep soundly, dreamless, content because "boyfriend" is there, and in order to keep him, allow such monstrosity as I've described.  A woman who doesn't recognize her baby as being entirely helpless and completely dependent upon her loving ministrations is lacking a primal, visceral ingredient, and no one believes a woman can give birth without fully adoring that life.  But they can.  They do exist.  I saw one today.   

I watched her face, her affectation.  Absent of anything other than what affected her personally and directly, this woman, at the pleading of Mr. Wilkos, finally showed something other than her smirking "I don't know".  She shed a single tear which she quickly wiped away.  What caused it?  She was talking about her own nightmares, her dreams.  HERS.  Where she would put her baby boy in the swing at the park and smile.  Was it a maternal act she was performing, for her child?  No I'm afraid it was because watching her son on the swing brought attention to herself when others came over to comment on her "cute little boy".  Nothing mattered but the moment, and she was that moment.  This baby was nothing.  EVEN WHEN GIVING BIRTH!  She claimed she felt...nothing.

For those who think every mother certainly must feel at least a small something for her baby, think again.  Incredibly, some do not and cannot.  This woman will rot in prison and I'm ashamed to say I'm not unhappy to know that.

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                            To Lattie McGee - rest in peace dear child.       

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                                                            AFTERWARD

In reading your comments, so passionately conveyed, I just want to refer to you one by Sharon (buggieboo1) who inserts a link to the story in greater detail, as this boy did have siblings.  I'd be indebted if you'd click that link from her comment.  In the interim, I've been thinking, re-reading your words, and trying to wrap my brain around some kind of working theory or at least some dynamic I can present about the majority of responses which of course, are to burn the woman and her boyfriend alive.  Preferably in public.  Next entry, then.  I need to address the idea of pain, dying, death, and murder. 

                                                               THANK YOU !

   

21 comments:

malagutigrrl said...

I LOVE Steve!  He used to be one of the stage security guys on Jerry Springer.  For some reason, the crowd loved him.  Eventually when Springer was on vacation, Steve was host.  But obviously a different kind of host.  Then suddenly he had his own show.  He's really dug up some of the dregs of society hasn't he?
Awesome.
:)
MJ

ma24179 said...

Now that just tore me apart inside. Luddie, I pictured my own son while I was reading this. This is horrible, and cruel! I hope that freak is tormented in prison. I hope they do the unthinkable to her and harm her the way she harmed that baby. My God you really put me in tears in this one.....

shrbrisc said...

I don't get it I can't imagine not having that feeling , that unconditional love that you have for your child , the air I breath , my reason for living is my children and to watch someone hurt them , won't happen they better kill me first , because I would do anything and everything in my power to protect my child.
hugs
Sherry

ab45yui said...

This was such a sad story.  So many families would love to love a child and for them to take life from him.  So sad!

princesssaurora said...

She should rot in prison... that poor baby.  Thank you for relating this store... shocking but true.
be well,
Dawn
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buggieboo1 said...

I Love the Steve show too, and saw this! I could not stand how she kept repeating Steve's questions and not answering them, or answering them in the same "dead" tone everytime "I don't know" or "I didn't know!"
How could she not know???? How could she allow her boyfriend to do that?
So sad!


Sharon

buggieboo1 said...

searched more of it on the web :(  he has a bother too... http://crime.about.com/od/v_childabuse/a/uc_lettie.htm
BUT just seeing her on TV like nothing happened and she could care less!

:(


Sharon

treesrgreen78 said...

We do not get this how in Canada.  although it would be very hard to watch this type of show, I am sure it certainly opens a lot of eyes to the horrendous attrocities that some twisted sick minds do to God's children.  I worked in a hospital doing transcription and some of the reports I typed were of childen being abused.  The things done to them were just as horrific as the stories you relate today.  Some of these woman have had 7 or 8 abortions and still have 3 or 4 children.  I do not have a name for these people, they certainly cant be of the human persuasion, they have no heart or soul.  

cundiamor77 said...

I shed bitter, sad tears over Lattie, I who always wanted a little boy but God Chose to give me 10 girls, see his sad, open wide eyes and have them burned in my mind forever. The woman who gave birth to him and watched him be so badly hurt without shedding a tear or feeling his pain is not human. I saw nothing human in her eyes, not a speck of human decency. Why is she alive? Why did she not get the death penalty? Who could judge and give her such a sentence, she who let an Angel be so heineously killed? Where is the justice for Angels like Lattie who are killed all the time? Time to give the death penalty to anyone like these monsters who kill, rape and maim the earths only source of joy, for indeed without our children the world would be an unbearable place to live.  Lattie is with the Angels, no one enjoyed his Love on earth so back he went to worship at the Heaven of the Father, for Jesus said,"of such as these is the kingdom of Heaven". He shines amongst us, lets never forget him..

rdautumnsage said...

It's a sad truth in the world. Unfortunately it happens more and more, you get people that claim they don't know instead of admitting they do, but hoping that by claiming ignorance it makes it ok. It's not ok, people need to be aware these things are happening all over, every single day. I've seen the dead look, the salvant behavior towards a man over a child.....the mother who gave to every one but her own child who went without food and clothing. I had one, thankfully I wasn't tortured so violently to leave scars and death. I always said my own mother knew how to have them , but I'd be damned if she knew how to care or love them. I'm the oldest of 6......I question the fact they test you for a driver's license, yet allow anyone and anything to have a child. Prison is too kind for the likes of this woman, she should have to undergo her own ignorance and suffer the fate of her child.(Hugs) Indigo

itzahazylife said...

I personally don't believe in an afterlife..i wish i did sense in my heart there was an afterlife, it being the only comfort one can possibly find in an atrocity so horrible..but i feel  that an idea of an afterlife is only to comfort and is only an idea...i sit and think that that little boy died in the way he did, and there's nothing to comfort him in the afterlife...in my mind that's the sick truth to the world...it's nature, we live and we die, like plants and like animals...and it's just sickening he had to go like that, and that the mother and father get the easy way out...they should go live in a 3rd world country and see what kind of punishment they'd get...that womans blank stare would turn into a cry for mercy as they chopped one of her limbs off..i just hope there's a hell

lanurseprn said...

I know this stuff exists, and I would find that show very VERY upsetting to watch. I would feel awful for days. I've seen his show..and I like it. But, the show you describe would probably be beyond what I could endure. I would want to make that mother endure everything that she put her kid thru. And that would be illegal.
Satisfying....but illegal.
I have a few friends that just "knew" that they couldn't be good parents and chose not to have any children. Too bad more people aren't that smart, eh?
Pam

queenb8261 said...

I've never heard of The Steve Wilkos show. What network is it on? But I believe there ARE women who are born without maternal instincts. It's so sad and it seems they always hook up with men who can think a 4 yr  is gay. There's a special  place in hell for people who harm children.
Hugs, Barb
http://journals.aol.com/queenb8261/DiaryofaMadwoman/

carolhehe said...

You opened my eyes to a new truth I guess I never wanted to existed. That poor litl baby. His mother will reap the consequences and that boyfriend of hers too.
That child is in the lap of Jesus now. Carol

valphish said...

I have never heard of this show.  It sounds fascinating.  Human nature, in general, is very fascinating to me.  I try to figure out how someone is so different from what I am.  I have no clue how a woman can not feel immediate love for her child.  It is beyond my comprehension.  One wonders how this happens.  I imagine it is a combination of things.  It happens in all walks of life I am sure.  This post was hard to read.  So sad.  It is happening to so many children.  Thanks for posting this.  Love, Val xox
http://journals.aol.com/valphish/ThereisaSeason

barbpinion said...

I am not unhappy about it either. When hearing and reading about things like this I cannot wrap my mind around the reality of it. It is beyond my comprehension. I cry every time I come across somthing like this. Unfortunately, it happens more and more these days. Hope your day went well in spite of this. I always find it difficult after viewing such things, or reading about them.
Hugs, love, and always my prayers,
Barb- http://journals.aol.com/barbpinion/FROMBARBSSPIRITUALJOURNALS

wwfbison said...

I'm not unhappy she is in prison either, personally I feel she got off easy but that is for another time as to what I think should happen to someone who allows something like this to happen.  That dear sweet little boy, my gosh, I cannot imagine the horror he went through.   My neighbor where I lived before had a baby, I had not known this.  She came over one evening crying hysterically, her cat had gotten out...ok.  About a month later police were all over the place, she had killed her baby and I believe there had been abuse up to the death.  They questioned me and I told them I never saw a baby, she was always holding her cat.  She had no remorse, her only emotion was for what would happen to her cat while she went to prison.  She should not have been a mother to start with.
Lisa

pharmolo said...

As you say, Cathy, some people are incapable of bringing up children, as they have no feelings towards their offspring. Justification for abuse are null and void, as it is a distraction for their warped sense of guilt. Child abuse is a scourge of humanity, often going undetected under the cover of family loyalty. I'll close by saying: You don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

bhbner2him said...

The very sad truth is there have always been some like that.  And there will always be some like that.  In fact, it will become more common place as we grow nearer the day of Christ's return and the end of this world.  All we can do is rescue children from such awful circumstance any time we find them and make sure those people never have access to any child again.  Whatever the means necessary.  -  Barbara

astoriasand said...

This is so heart rendering it is beyond belief ,Socked is an understatement for me and I am so very bitter. I feel that this type on=f behaviour is allowed to continue in this sad sad world we are living in.Poor litlle baby.May perpetual  light shine upon this dear little boy, he is now at peace and in a far better place.As for them two Monsters who did this dispicable crime.My words could never be harsh enough for what there punishment should be..Thankyou for bringing this to light and to peoples attention.Take Care God Bless You. Kath
astoriasand http://journals.aol.co.uk/astoriasand/MYSIMPLERHMYES

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